Today I want to talk a bit about what I believe to be most important element needed to find success in life: believing in yourself.
Believing in yourself is key to becoming a top performer.
If you don’t believe in yourself, none of the strategies, techniques and ideas I will be sharing with you going forward will mean anything.
That said, how did I start believing in myself?
Here are 2 ways I did it.
- I did things (mostly stupid) that everyone thought impossible.
During my first year of college at the University of Hawaii (because education is important, but surfing is importanter), one of my college buddies decided to drop out of the Honolulu Marathon, which he was set to run in a week.
I promptly offered to take his number and run in his place. Mind you, I wasn’t a runner. Why would you do that? – you ask. Why not? – I answer.
Long story short, I finished the damn thing in a very painful 5 hours.
Bleeding from my chafing nipples and soaking up my blistering feet, I return to my dorm room with a finisher medal around my sunburnt neck.
My first thought was: how stupid of me. But later, it turned out to be a key moment in my life.
What the experience did was show me how much more capable we are than we make ourselves believe.
No one believed I’d finish.
I didn’t believe I’d finish.
Put yourself out there. Do something you think you can’t.
You might surprise yourself.
- I prepare. Then I prepare more. And then some more.
Sun Tzu said “Every battle is won before it’s ever fought”.
We live in a world where things are easy. Need to know something? Just Google it.
Technology has made us lazy.
Because of that, most of us have no idea what it takes to compete at the highest of levels.
I played tennis almost every day from the age of 9 until I graduated college. That is a lot of hours.
Thousands and thousands of hours.
By the time I finished my last year as a collegiate tennis player, I had made the all-conference team.
That would be my peak.
No professional career.
I simply wasn’t good enough to go pro.
It was time to get a job.
That’s the real world.
If you want to compete with the big boys – in business, sports, life – you need to prepare.
Top salespeople don’t just “wing it”.
They have prepared in advance.
They will research their targets as much as they can beforehand.
By the time they make the sale, it’s already been done. To the salesperson, the face-to-face is just a formality.
This year I decided I want to finish an Ironman triathlon. Google it.
And no, I’m not a triathlete. I’m a retired tennis player.
How will I do it?
I am preparing.
Every day. Three to four hours. Broken into two sessions.
With a coach. Who I pay to yell at me as if I were a kid on a high school varsity team.
That’s in addition to running my businesses.
Both of them.
Plus this blog.
Preparing takes time. But it’s worth it.
Preparation will give you confidence. It will help you believe in yourself.
In summary, try things you think you can’t do. You’ll surprise yourself.
And prepare. More than you think you need to.
The rest will take care of itself.